Touring the country to promote her book "Becoming", the former first lady spoke in Brooklyn on Saturday night about her own life, which includes a heritage of American slavery, a degree from Harvard Law School, and assent to the position of a beloved and loathed worldwide icon.
Promoting her memoir "Becoming" to a packed house at Barclays Center in Brooklyn, NY, former First Lady Michelle Obama dismissed common feminist advice coined by Facebook chief operating officer Sheryl Sandberg as "s***" that usually "doesn't work".
"Like me, Meghan probably never dreamt that she'd have a life like this, and the pressure you feel - from yourself and from others - can sometimes feel like a lot", the lawyer told the magazine. She said: "We mistakenly thought that Barack Obama was going to erase hundreds of years of history in eight years".
After realizing she swore, the author, 54, apologized: "I forgot where I was for a moment!".
In fairness, she also knows what life is like in the public eye. "It just means that it's hard, what we are trying to do is shift culture", she added.
Why? Well one reason is that "marriage still ain't equal, y'all", according to Obama.
"Thankfully I get more (and more regular) sleep these days", she said. "We laughed about how many hours were spent inside our heads, hoping a boy would ask us to dance, or stewing over a big test, just doing everything we could to avoid even the most minor embarrassments".
Specifically, she takes issue with the idea that women can (and often are expected to) "have it all".
"Malia and I were talking recently about all the little things we'd stress over in junior high and high school - whether we're wearing the right clothes, a snarky comment somebody made about us, the boys we crushed on", she says.
She said she didn't believe America was ready for a black president, "let alone a black president named Barack Hussein Obama".
"And I just find it really inspiring".
She's also thrown herself into royal duties and successfully navigated her way through her first royal tour of Australia, during the early stages of her pregnancy. "And I think that gave me a level of strength that carries me through to this day".
Rather than listen to that awful advice, she found someone else to write her letter of recommendation. "They're like, 'What's that?' And I'm like, 'Yep, we're in the real world now, fellas'".